This is Tiara's 2nd year in club volleyball.
Last game, she was in only for 5 minutes during the whole match (2 sets) and our team lost.
I was not too happy when she did not get to play. I think Tiara is a decent player, during the 5 minutes she was in the game, she did well - she gave solid passes and displayed good sportsmanship with the team.
I have also been supplementing Tiara with private sessions so that she is improving in her skills (serving, setting, passing) despite her smaller stature.
It made me begin spiraling thinking of next year's club season - what can I do better as a parent in helping choose a team for Tiara so that she get more on the court time. I believe that court time is valuable as it is where the experience of real game is.
However, as I prayed and talked with few people, I realized that in every circumstances - there is a beautiful lesson we can learn. Tiara can learn real life lessons from being in a bench.
She might do all the right thing and still being benched - can help her with humility and grit, developing perseverance.
Not only her- but me as her mom as well - I can be better supporter for her. Being there when outcomes are not as what we hoped for.
I am sure this will just make both her and I stronger later - when promotions were handed to her colleague instead of her, when she was not selected on better projects/team.
We still trust that God is always in control as we submit to Him.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6